The Goodness of the LORD

In the book reviews of “Shepherding a Child’s Heart” by Ted Tripp, I was surprised to find a lot of negative comments on the book.  I’ve not read it but the following are some of the commenters’ opinions against the book. One commenter stated:

“Tripp believes that as Biblical parents, what we must truly control is not the actions but the heart of our children. And to this end, he advocates spanking children not for their actions, but for what we interpret their heart to be. He espouses that if we tie those heart-strings, then we will *know* the heart of our children. And thus, we MUST discipline for what we know of their heart, and discipline until we turn their heart.So what is the problem with this philosophy? Quite simply, its the concept that we can BE God to our children. Its a flawed and dangerous philosophy to believe that we can control the hearts of our children …  ultimately, the decision to turn their heart to the Lord MUST come from our children, and will only come through the work of the Lord himself in the hearts of HIS children.”

Another commenter had this to say:

“I thought that is why Jesus came. To take our punishment. We forget that, and put our children under the “law”, while we enjoy grace.”

This final commenter summed up my problem with those who “define” how to live “biblically”:

“This book, recommended by friends, purports to be about “Biblical” child-rearing. Now, I consider myself a born-again Christian and have a high regard for the Bible as God’s word. However, the interpretation of scripture used in this book is highly questionable. The author has a world-view drawn largely from the Old Testament scriptures. His stated view of God is “Tremble, God is a Consuming Fire” and he reminds us that more than one third of the Bible is about judgement. He suggests that the three foundations of life are “the fear of the lord” (and yes, he means fear in the literal sense of the word), “adherence to parental instruction”, and “disassociation from the wicked”.Now that you have some idea where he is coming from, it is interesting to see where he goes with regards to child-rearing. First, he opposes all techniques of child-rearing but his own. Of course, he doesn’t claim it is his own method, it is, after all, Biblical, and if you do not follow it you are at risk of eternal perdition, as is your child. Second, the two principles of Biblical child-rearing – according to him – are:1) “Rich, full, communication”
2) “The rod.”
This is based on Proverbs 23:13-19. He takes this passage quite literally although ironically, he fails to give similar import to the passages in Deuteronomy (21:18-21) in which disrespect for parents is treated with stoning.”

So, these reviews on the book that, previously I had heard nothing but raves about from people at church, got me thinking about the whole Old-Testament-Law-following again.  Jesus came and fulfilled the Law, and when we pick a choose which O.T. Laws we want to follow in order to be “biblical”, then we forget to look to the Author and Finisher of our faith, Jesus, and His Spirit to guide us, not man’s opinions and interpretations.

The Scripture passage that encouraged me today was about God’s Goodness and Mercy and Grace.  It reveals His wonderful reign as glorious King.  Be encouraged today.

Psalm 145

“I will extol thee, my God, O king; and I will bless thy name for ever and ever.  Every day will I bless thee; and I will praise thy name for ever and ever.  Great is the LORD, and greatly to be praised; and his greatness is unsearchable.  One generation shall praise thy works to another, and shall declare thy mighty acts.  I will speak of the glorious honour of thy majesty, and of thy wondrous works.  And men shall speak of the might of thy terrible acts: and I will declare thy greatness.  They shall abundantly utter the memory of thy great goodness, and shall sing of thy righteousness.  The LORD is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy.  The LORD is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works.  All thy works shall praise thee, O LORD; and thy saints shall bless thee. They shall speak of the glory of thy kingdom, and talk of thy power;  To make known to the sons of men his mighty acts, and the glorious majesty of his kingdom. Thy kingdom is an everlasting kingdom, and thy dominion endureth throughout all generations. The LORD upholdeth all that fall, and raiseth up all those that be bowed down. The eyes of all wait upon thee; and thou givest them their meat in due season. Thou openest thine hand, and satisfiest the desire of every living thing. The LORD is righteous in all his ways, and holy in all his works. The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth. He will fulfil the desire of them that fear him: he also will hear their cry, and will save them. The LORD preserveth all them that love him: but all the wicked will he destroy. My mouth shall speak the praise of the LORD: and let all flesh bless his holy name for ever and ever.”


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4 Responses to “The Goodness of the LORD”

  1. TulipGirl Says:

    Personally, I’ve got some yellow flags when it comes to SaCH–but at the same time, I recognize that parts of it can be encouraging to parents. I’ve found that <a href=”’.Lutherama’s two posts related to SaCH to be very thoughtful and thought-provoking.

    I haven’t read Tedd Tripp’s new book, Instructing a Child’s Heart. However, I hope it reflects what he shares about the place of the Gospel in parenting as written in this article.

    Overall, I’ve found with all parenting information coming from a “Christian” point of view, we have to evaluate it in light of our family’s beliefs about the place of the child in the Covenant and what the Gospel looks like when lived out in family relationships.

    While I have a copy of SaCH on my shelves from years ago, it’s not one that I revisit for encouragement or recommend to other parents.

  2. TulipGirl Says:

    Errrr. . . sorry for that messy link and html mess up.

    ,a href=””>Lutherama on Tripp

  3. TulipGirl Says:

    aCK! I did it again!


  4. choseninhim Says:


    You know the old saying: If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again! Thanks for sharing those links and I’ll be taking a look at them.

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